Interviewer: Good Morning sir, Here is an online Interview from the Ladies With Difference.
My name is ‘Nife Emmanuel. Can we meet you?
Guest: My name is Bankole Tolulope Olalekan (aka Bankson)
Interviewer: You are welcome sir
My first question is, How long have you been Married?
Guest: 3years, 9months
Interviewer: Wow, Wonderful sir! How did you meet your Spouse?
Guest: I met her first in my dream on an April fool’s day (1st of April).
Interviewer: Wow… I guess you’ll be like, Is God playing Pranks on Me?
Guest: Yeah that’s the feels
Interviewer: What happened afterwards?
Guest: But the following week, I met one Pastor’s wife who approached me and asked about my relationship status. And I asked, hope no problem?
She said no, but God has been laying something in her heart about a lady. Anytime she sees the lady, her heart tells her she is just a replica of my mother and she would like me to meet her.
In my mind I was just like…. Hmmmm see matchmaking machine. So I told her instantly that I’m not in any relationship but I already have the picture of my future wife. And I asked, do you have the picture of the person you are talking about here? She said no. But she has her number.
Interviewer: (little laughs) God of Precepts
Guest: What captured my attention was when she said, the lady looked like my Mom. I already heard that statement from 3 people that my wife will look like my Mom’s younger sister. The dream I had confirmed it and here is a woman we hardly talk, telling me the same thing
Interviewer: God at Work!
Guest: I collected the number, for her not to feel embarrassed and stored it on my Nokia e73 phone ( I love the phone) and forgot I even collected any number, not until 2weeks after. I was scrolling my WhatsApp DP pictures, just for me to see the picture of the person I met in my dream, dressed the same way i saw her in the dream
My heart just flipped…
Interviewer: My God! That’s serious! Let’s pause here Sir.
My Next question is, How did you fall in love?
Guest: Me I did not fall in love o…. I don’t like falling, but at first it was not about love but about God….And God is love so I found myself loving her day after day. I didn’t fall or slip into love. My love grew overtime.
Interviewer: Were there hurdles in the relationship, if yes How did you overcome it?
Guest: Yes there were, although very minor ones. We overcame it by the state of our mind (maturity) and understanding that, we both win or lose together.
Interviewer: How did you /are you sustaining your relationship?
Guest: Sustaining it by God’s grace and our commitment to make it work despite and in spite of whatever circumstances.
Interviewer: Thank you sir… I’ll like to ask a question outside the box…
Guest: Then we will take it inside the box.
Interviewer: When you met her, was there a time you felt like, Can this be true? Did you love and accepted what was presented to you at First…?
Guest: The feelings of can this be true is not just when we met, it lingered for a long time, even after marriage. I didn’t love her at first but I accepted her the first time I met her.
Interviewer: Hmmm…This is rare. Accepting what was presented at first… Or let me ask like this way,
Was your acceptance due to the fact that she was a physical clear picture of what you wanted in a lady, or it was because It’s all about God?
Guest: She isn’t the physical representation of my kind of person. But I had to go for what God said rather than my feelings.
Interviewer: Wow…I’m so Glad we could have this interview with you sir.
But before we call it a day, what is your advice for married and unmarried folks?
Guest: For the unmarried: Be watchful, sensitive and prayerful for direction before entering any relationship. Don’t enter first, then start doing the praying and watching
For the married: With God at the center, selflessness and commitment, all things work together for the good of them that loves God
Interviewer: Thank you so much for your time sir.
From the Convener of the Ladies With Difference, we Pray Heaven will Continuously make your marriage a good role model for marriages in Jesus Name! (Amen)
We Celebrate You Sir.
Guest: You’re welcome
True Love Story by: Mr. Bankole Tolulope Olalekan (aka Bankson)